Since my last post, carpet has been put in our house (and it’s beautiful!) and I’ve gone on a date with my mom (pedicures, lunch at Panera, and to see My Sister’s Keeper–it was SO sad.)
Now, though, it’s time to answer questions. The first questions were asked by Amber of Girl With Red Hair.
My questions for you: Did you always know you wanted to get married young? AND Were your parents OK with you getting married so young?
Did you always know you wanted to get married young?
When I was a kid/teenager, I suspected that I’d marry young. Everyone in my family married young (including my parents–they married at eighteen after knowing each other for only eight days!), and I was so in love with the idea of it. It seemed romantic to me. However, after a two-year relationship ended after my sophomore year in high school, I fell head-over-heels for Husband. He wasn’t so in love with the idea of marriage, though, so I figured it would take him YEARS to make the huge step.
We didn’t even begin dating until the latter half of my senior year (he had already been out of school for two years), after I turned eighteen. By that point, I was okay with waiting until marriage. Things moved at a quick pace for us, though, and he was the one saying we’d get married in 2008. I just kind of laughed it off, not really believing him… And I didn’t want to get my hopes up.
In June of 2007, Husband wanted to look at engagement rings. We were going to be moving in together in August, so marriage seemed like the next step. We found the ring (a three-stone, round-cut ring … I actually wanted the 1/4 carat, but Husband said he wanted to get me the 1/2). He didn’t buy the ring that day, and I assumed it would be MONTHS before he could even afford it. So, I still figured we’d get married years later. Well, apparently he went back a week or two later and bought the ring. I, of course, had no idea … and I had no idea until November 6, 2007 when he proposed in the bedroom of our apartment. So, basically, he hid the ring from me for a little over four months! (He kept it hidden in his camera bag.)
Basically, until that point, I was okay with the idea of waiting until marriage, and I wasn’t 100% that I’d be getting married at nineteen.
Were your parents OK with you getting married so young?
Since they married young, my parents were okay with the idea of me marrying young. The closer it became, though, the more unsure they seemed. They wanted to make sure I was sure. I think it was mostly because they didn’t want me to grow up yet (though I had already been living with Husband for nearly a year). They were excited, though. They get along so well with Husband, and they know that we’re incredibly happy together. (They just keep wondering when we’ll have kids! …But that’ll be a while from now.)
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Very good questions- I didn’t know you were married that young, it’s very cool to hear about!
Aw, that is too precious. And that bit about your parents– WOW! That is the kind of love that you usually only see in movies and fairy tales. It’s so cool you got to see it every day growing up.
Both my and Neil’s parents were also married young. Mine were 19 and 20 and his were 19. We, however, were 20 and 21 but I don’t think a couple of years matters and I still consider us “married young”. I love it!!
This is great! These have been some of my questions reading your blog, too. I’m always interested what compels people to marriage at any point in their life.
(finally added your blog to my google reader)
The idea of marriage is a little, well, terrifying for me! I have a great boyfriend who I’m pretty sure I’m going to marry (don’t tell him, though; he thinks I’m not sure).
Maybe I’m getting old and sentimental, but your story made me awww a lot.
Thanks for answering my questions!!! What a great story – so romantic!!
Can’t say I always imagined myself being married young, but I always seen myself being married before I turned 30. Granted I still have 5 yrs to go, but for some reason it feels a lot closer. That’s probably cuz everyone I know is getting married
I actually can’t really remember my attitude about marriage in high school, I know in college I was a little apprehensive about it, because I am a very introverted private person, and I didn’t like the idea of sharing a bedroom with anyone! Haha, that seems so ridiculous now, but back then my bedroom was my “MeOnlyZone.” My boyfriend-at-the-time even felt the need to assure me that he would be OK with having separate rooms as long as we could be together.
But we broke up, and I met my husband during my senior year of college. We were inseparable from Day 1, so not having enough space was just never an issue with us. At first we intended to wait until he had finished school (he had just started his first year of college when we met), but we ended up getting married a little over a year later. My parents were overly-supportive. His parents were…. not. But it all worked out anyways