“We do not change as we get older; we just become more clearly ourselves.”*

I hope that is how I’m living. I hope that I’m becoming more clearly myself, rather than going down the path that isn’t wholly me. How can we tell? Is our life planned out for us, written in permanent marker? Or do we have the pencil, allowing us to draw/erase our own path? Are we genetically pre-determined, some higher being knowing just what we’ll become?

Thanksgiving was once my favorite holiday. It still is, in some ways, but it doesn’t have that same ring to it. It isn’t something I look forward to (anymore), nor is it something I dread. It just is. The last Thanksgiving I spent with my paternal grandparents (together) was in 2003. It’s been six years, and really, has it been that long? Has it taken me six years to come to a point where I can say, “I’m okay. I can breathe through it”? I’ve spent six years holding my breath through holidays, holding back tears. Even just last year, I wanted to crawl in a hole and let the holidays pass by me. What has changed? Have I become more wholly myself?

Granny and I always made the stuffing together. The last year she was alive, before she knew it would be her last Thanksgiving, she let me make the stuffing on my own, showing me that I could do it … That I was old enough, finally, to take something on without her. Little did I know that I would soon have to take on life without her … But I have been, and I will continue to do so. (Without her physically, at least.)

When she was diagnosed with lung cancer in May of 2004, I was already prepared. I knew it was coming one day. Afterall, she had smoked for decades. What I wasn’t prepared for was the day she wouldn’t beat it, just three months later. I don’t blame her, though. She didn’t just give up.  She was ready, and her body was tired of fighting. She fought long enough to show me the true meaning of life–to love wholly and to live without regrets.

So, this Thanksgiving, I will enjoy it without regretting that my Granny (and Pawpaw, her husband) are no longer here. On my 21st birthday (in just less than a week), I will love wholly and be thankful for another year of life. If she were alive today, she’d pass me a beer; knowing I’m not a fan of beer, she’d say, “Try it, Meg … because you may not have a chance tomorrow.” So, in honor of her, I might tip one back, unwillingly, and with the blue sparkle in my eye that matches hers, I will continue to live without regrets–becoming more clearly myself.

*I’m unsure where this quote comes from. Ironically, it was in a spam comment on my blog.

This is part of a “Blogging Through the Years” series started by Ashley. My other Blogging Through the Years posts: Pre-K.

• The year was 1994. My kindergarten teacher (Mrs. T) was amazing. I remember her being a family friend, so I had even been to her house a few times. I’m pretty sure she lived on an Ostrich farm. Crazy, right?
• I remember having a girl in my class that would go around biting people during nap time. She threw tantrums all the time. I actually imagined myself punching her in the face one day, but I was way too shy to do that.
• My sister started pre-k this year, and I thought it was cool being someone’s big sister. I always made sure she got on the bus, even if I had to go by her classroom to walk her to it. If she wasn’t on the bus by a certain point, I would get really scared and protective. She had bouncy curls, baby blue eyes, and she was my “baby.”
• I have a hard time remembering anything I learned this year, sadly. I’m assuming I learned to read and some writing skills.
• I always had lonnng hair (to my waist). This was the year I decided to get it cut, and mom let me get it cut to my shoulders.

Do you remember your first haircut or any crazy things about past teachers?

P.S. I was featured as Alana’s Blog Friend Crush today!